"He was trying to comfort me and I said I just can’t wait for all of this to be over," a Reddit user shared
A woman says her fiancé is mad at her after she told him she can't wait for their wedding to be over.
In a viral post on the “Am I the A**hole?” Reddit forum, a woman who goes by the username Adept_Neat_6771 revealed that the couple got into an argument after she tried to explain to him how overwhelmed she was from wedding planning.
"I had a breakdown yesterday. He was trying to comfort me and I said I just can’t wait for all of this to be over. He asked what 'all of this' is and I said all the wedding preparation and the wedding itself because I’m losing my mind and I can’t even go to sleep peacefully at night worrying about everything," she wrote.
She continued, "He let me finish my breakdown but later told me he would rather not see me feel so miserable about marrying him. I said he knows damn well it’s not marrying him that I’m miserable about, but I’m burnt out and if I can’t communicate my unhappiness to him then what can I do?"
The woman said that her fiancé has always known that she didn't want a big, extravagant wedding. Instead, she would have preferred a small ceremony at a courthouse. At first, her fiancé was on board. But after the two got engaged, he told her it was a once-in-a-lifetime event.
Now with wedding planning in the works, the woman said it's been hard for her to balance everything while working 60 hours a week. She added that she's mad all of her money is going toward a wedding she doesn't want.
She explained, "Every hour I’m at work I can’t help but think that that extra money isn’t even going towards anything useful. We could be saving for a house but no, we’re spending all this money on a damn wedding."
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On the forum, she got over 280 responses as users shared advice with the woman and explained how she should handle the situation.
In one response, another user who went through a similar experience shared her thoughts. "When my husband and I went through this, our solution was for him to plan everything since he handles stress better than I do," the person wrote.
They added, "He narrowed things down to his favorite 2-3 options for everything, and I chose my favorite of his favorites. If we hadn’t done that, I probably would’ve gone for a jog on the interstate."
"I'm very sorry this is happening -- and you should seriously consider whether or not you want to go through with the wedding," another user responded.
That person continued, "You told him from the get-go that you didn't want to do this for very valid mental health and financial reasons and he cajoled you into it. You're spending what sounds like potentially tens of thousands of dollars on something that will make you miserable."
"When you finally broke down...he made it about him and how he doesn't like seeing your feelings when he knows the hurt is his fault. He's showing you how he'll treat you going forward. Don't ignore that," they added.
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