Vanessa Lachey on the Gesture Her Daughter Made So She, Husband Nick Celebrate Their Anniversary (Exclusive)

"She's 9 now, and she's really coming into that age of love and romance," Lachey tells PEOPLE of daughter Brooklyn

<p>Presley Ann/Getty</p> Vanessa Lachey and daughter Brooklyn Lachey

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Vanessa Lachey and daughter Brooklyn Lachey

Vanessa Lachey's daughter is helping her keep the romance alive with husband Nick Lachey.

In an exclusive interview with PEOPLE, the Love Is Blind co-host, 43, revealed that her 9-year-old daughter Brooklyn wants to make sure her parents make time to celebrate their upcoming 13th wedding anniversary together.

Vanessa explained that she will be busy filming season 4 of NCIS: Hawaii this summer and won't be able to ask for time off for her and Nick's July 15 anniversary. But, the actress said that Brooklyn isn't about to let her mom and dad miss the special milestone.

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"She asked when I went back to work, and I said, 'End of June.' She goes, 'But your anniversary is July 13. She's like, 'And it's your lucky number, it's your golden anniversary.' I was like, 'I know, baby.' She said, 'Well, you have to be with Daddy. You guys have to go do something,' " recalls Vanessa, who also shares sons Camden, 11, and Phoenix, 7, with Nick, 50.

"It was just the sweetest thing that it meant so much to her," she adds, explaining that Brooklyn is "coming into that age of love and romance" and very attune to her parents' relationship dynamics.

<p>Vanessa Lachey/Instagram</p> Vanessa and Nick Lachey with their three kids

Vanessa Lachey/Instagram

Vanessa and Nick Lachey with their three kids

"She's very aware when Mommy and Daddy are holding hands and loving, and very aware when there's tension in the room," Vanessa explains.

The actress and TV host says Brooklyn's concern about her parents' anniversary plans led her to reflect on her own childhood and not having her mother around.

"I remember being her age, and I just remember everything going on with my mom leaving me. My mom left me when I was her age. And we talk about that all the time. And honestly, having a 9-year-old daughter, like, I'm going to cry now — I can't think of ever leaving her," Vanessa tells PEOPLE.

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"So I still will never understand that with my mother, but it really drives me," she continued. "It drives me in everything I do for [Brooklyn], whether it's work or whether it's personal."

Vanessa says the experience of growing up without her mother motivates her to be the best mother she can be to Brooklyn and has taught her important lessons.

"I remember being that little girl and needing and craving that guidance, and that love, and that safe space. So I'm grateful in a weird way that I came out on the other end of it, and I know now what not to do," she tells PEOPLE. "I understand what I want to do, and [Brooklyn] accepts it with open arms and lots of love."

<p>Vanessa Lachey/Instagram</p> Vanessa and Nick Lachey with their three children

Vanessa Lachey/Instagram

Vanessa and Nick Lachey with their three children

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Vanessa also opens up to PEOPLE about the key rule she and Nick always follow when it comes to their three children.

"The one thing that we've always agreed on is that we will always, always let our children know how much we love them," she shares. "It sounds so simple, but I didn't have that constant affirmation, physically and verbally, when I was younger, nor did Nick."

She continues, "I mean, of course you know you're loved, but do you really? And sometimes, you like to hear it and you like to feel it. And so, I don't think that we've ever talked about, 'This is what we have to do,' but between the two of us, we know our kids need to always know they're loved, especially after a disciplinary moment."

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