Teacher Asks a Parent to Include the Whole Class in Her Son's Birthday Party. Then the Conversation Takes a Turn
A Reddit user tried to flip the script on a teacher — but it backfired
A parent is asking if they’re wrong for suggesting their son’s teacher host his birthday party at her home — but an act of malicious compliance quickly turned sour.
On Reddit, a woman explains that she planned to host two of her son’s friends for a small sleepover for his birthday over the weekend. Only one of the two kids invited is a member of her son’s class, and invites were sent via text message to the two students’ parents.
“Before my son even got home from the bus I got a call from his teacher ‘Lorna’ requesting that the party involve all the students in the class,” the Redditor writes.
The parent politely declined, noting that her apartment was not large enough to accommodate everyone in the class (in addition to their guardians), and told the teacher “she has no say in who is at my home ever.”
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“She says that because other students are involved, she does and that I should have the party somewhere that can allow all students,” the poster continues.
In response to what other commenters have called a “power trip” from the teacher, the Redditor suggested the teacher host the party instead.
“I tell her ‘Okay, what's your address?’ and when she asks why, I told [her] that since you think you have a say and you want all your students to be a part, we might as well have the party [at] her house.”
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The teacher did not share her address, but after the phone call was over, the poster admits she looked up the teacher’s address using her social media accounts, and drafted an email inviting the students in the class to the teacher's home for the son’s birthday party.
“I was NOT planning on actually sending that to anyone else but her, I just wanted to prove the point and felt I was being sarcastic but I know tone is hard online,” the mom admits. “She responded to not send it and to do whatever I want for the birthday, she does not care anymore.”
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The Redditor says they’re looking for alternative perspectives because their husband “called me unhinged” — and many Redditors agree that she took it too far.
“Stopping the teacher’s power play by throwing her logic at her? Genius!” one commenter admitted. “But then you had to be f------ creepy about it towards the end. Public or not, that was weird and your email could have been interpreted as thinly veiled ‘I know where you live’ threat.”
“You quickly went from being deeply justified and right to possibly opening yourself up to legal ramifications... especially with the paper trail evidence you so willingly created,” another commenter wrote, suggesting the poster apologize to the teacher at once.