A Singaporean influencer, tired of negative experiences with men she had dated, thought it would be a brilliant idea to crowdsource for gossip about potential dates from her female fans.
Koh Boon Ki, 22, who according to The Straits Times is a recent pharmacy graduate from the National University of Singapore, started a Telegram group chat purportedly for all girls in Singapore to share their information about men to avoid so that they wouldn't repeat each others' mistakes.
Koh, who has 112,000 followers on TikTok, had posted about "a Telegram group with girls from all the dating apps in Singapore and we discuss the guys we've talked to and dates we've been on (imagine the excel sheet we can make)".
She later said she created the Telegram chat group on Saturday (16 Oct).
It wasn't such a bad idea, except that this is the internet and the whole thing backfired for its potential to be abused.
Users who joined the Telegram group created a Google spreadsheet in which anyone could anonymously share details about guys that they had supposedly dated or had a relationship with. Such information included their full names and contact details.
Accusations against men ranged from them being scammers or cheaters to more serious ones like sexual assault.
Netizens criticised Koh, saying that all the "tea" in the document could be considered doxxing, which is illegal, or might be false accusations.
Acknowledging the criticisms, Koh later deleted the Telegram chat, apparently titled "sg dating adventures" on 18 Oct.
In a video statement on her TikTok, Koh said she "didn't put enough consideration into setting boundaries and rules within the chat to moderate the discussion".
"The document is very incriminating and I do regret its existence. I have since asked the creator of the Google Sheet to delete the document," said Koh.