Mother of the Bride Attempts to Schedule Alteration for Daughter’s Wedding Dress She Deemed Too Revealing
A bride-to-be shared a post to Reddit asking for advice about her mother — who seemed to be far too involved in the wedding dress shopping process
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Stock image of a brideA bride-to-be is taking to the internet after her mom tried to pressure her into altering her wedding gown.
On Wednesday, May 29, a 28-year-old woman shared a Reddit post to the "AITA" subreddit (a.k.a., "Am I The A------?") to share a story that had commenters taking her side.
According to the Reddit user, her mom has long had a tendency to gift her clothing that doesn't match her style.
"My fiancé recently pointed out how her style is very different from mine, often either very matronly or childish," the user wrote. "Despite returning 80% of the clothes she sends, she continues to inundate me with more."
Unfortunately, the situation got out of control when she began the process of shopping for her wedding dress. According to the bride, her mom pushed for a "matronly dress that I hated" and wouldn't consider any gowns that she liked.
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"I eventually chose a dress that everyone, including her, seemed to agree was the most flattering," she wrote. "However, the next day she insisted it was too low cut and even showed photos of me in it to her friends at my grandmother's funeral to get validation."
Although the bride-to-be said she explicitly told her mother that she did not want to go shopping again and that she had selected the perfect gown already, her mom went ahead and booked a shopping appointment — something she called "a humiliating experience."
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"She showed zoomed-in photos of my chest to the staff, who graciously assured her that it was not revealing," the woman wrote. "However, it didn't stop there."
The moment the bride left the dress shop, her mom began shopping for rehearsal dinner dresses. The woman said she refused her mom's suggestions once again, but "despite my polite returns and clear communication, she persisted in sending more."
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Stock image of a brideThen came the moment that made her furious. The bride's mom attempted to have the wedding dress her daughter had picked out at the first appointment — which her parents were keeping at their house for storage — altered.
"My mom texted me that she had booked an alteration appointment for my dress, claiming it needed to fit perfectly and be less revealing," the post reads. "She also mentioned that she had paid $50 for the appointment. After all our previous conflicts over the dress, I was in disbelief that she had not let it go."
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Despite telling her mom that their last shopping excursion together had been "extremely upsetting" and that she "couldn’t handle it again," her mother was "dismissive."
"I lost it and told her that her constantly bulldozing and manipulating me has ruined my wedding," she finished, posing the subreddit's infamous question to commenters. "I know my mom genuinely wants to be involved in my life and my wedding, but her constant interference and insistence on her taste over mine are making what should be a joyful planning process into a nightmare - AITA here?"
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Most people replying to the bride-to-be's post took her side immediately, calling her mom too overbearing and involved.
"[Not the a------]," one user wrote. "You are standing your ground for YOUR wedding. Its about your taste and preference. There are certainly some compromises to be made, but your wedding dress is important to your experience. Her insistence is really what is making her [the a------]."
Another user even joked that the woman was an "a------, mostly to yourself," and gave her some advice on standing up to her mother.
"She's a nightmare, and she will continue to be one. It won't be easy, getting her to back off, even a little bit," they wrote. "But, every single 'no' you say AND KEEP SAYING will be a push in the right direction. This way, you're just enabling her controlling behavior. No is a full sentence, remember that, but one that requires a lot from a person who uttered it."
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