Felicia Chin says how she used to deal with sadness 'wasn't very healthy'
The local actress opened up about how she used to stay alone in a dark room for a few days, and how she now allows herself to cry and talk about her feelings.
Dealing with emotions is a tricky business; there are many ways to cope and it’s very personal for each individual.
However, as local actress Felicia Chin discovered, keeping your feelings bottled up and isolating yourself might not be the healthiest way to resolve it.
In her weekly video series, Chin admitted in the latest episode, published Sunday (Aug 27), that she dealt with sadness very differently 10 years ago.
She recalled, “In the past, I would probably keep it inside me and stay alone in a dark room for two to three days. And when I cannot stay in the [emotional] valley anymore, I’ll slowly have the motivation to climb out of it. Looking back, that wasn’t very healthy.”
Ways to manage emotions now
Now, Chin instead talks about her feelings to others. She added, “I’ll cry too. I allow myself to feel my emotions. This is the change I’m making now. I feel that if you’re sad, just cry. Tears have healing properties.”
She also suggested watching videos that can make you happy or relaxed; although, this could be broadly applied to doing things that make you happy.
For Chin, when she’s feeling stressed, she watches baseball videos to unwind.
“I will also give myself a time limit. I find that if I indulge in the act of ignoring my feelings for too long, I’ll feel worse,” she shared.
Chin added, “I will set an alarm. When the alarm rings, it’s a reminder to myself that it’s time to move on and truly face my feelings. I will ask myself ‘Why I’m feeling this way?’, ‘Why am I upset?’, ‘Have I faced something similar in the past?’”
If you have someone with more life experience, or a mentor, around you, Chin suggested speaking to them if you feel comfortable as they might see things from a different perspective.
“I think feelings aren’t bad. How we deal with them is key. Allow yourself to grieve. Allow yourself to be sad. But at the right time, face up to what we’re feeling inside. Confide in someone you can trust,” she concluded.
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